"We, as humans, all need some emotional support, there is nothing wrong with that. Where we have options is in picking who is going to give it to us and in knowing what kind of support we need. There are folks out there who exploit others. There are some well meaning ones with Messiah complexes who love to help people and (unawares I think) feel better when we're down so they have someone to help. Thank God there are those who just care for us, have nothing to gain from us, and, though more than willing to help when we're low, would much rather see us strong and on our feet and just enjoy our company. Then, too, there are times when we feel we want to take a very independent, self sufficient approach and it works. I believe it is a fallacy to demand of ourselves, or anyone, that this is a requirement, that it always be true."

Samuel Ramsay

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